Parents as Therapists - thumb sucking - temper tantrums - parenting

Parents in our society are not taught to appropriately discipline their children. Instead, professionals and others teach parents a variety of tricks and gimmicks they can use to control children or put a stop to irritating or unwanted behaviors. What all of these gimmicks have in common is that they are easy to use; they can be applied to any problem and do not require much planning or thought. Another thing they all have in common is that they are ineffective...they don't work in the long term and do not improve children's self control or the choices they make. In fact, commonly used parenting practices often make things worse! For example, punished children may become sneaky, behaving only when parents are around. Rewards backfire because rewarded children may learn to behave only when rewards are offered. "What's in it for me?" "What will you give me?"

Are you teaching your children self control and self discipline? Or, are you just using commonly accepted but inappropriate parenting strategies that temporarily seem to put you in charge? Do you spank or yell? These are tricks rather than discipline. Other questionable tricks include charts & stickers, naughty chairs, grounding, taking away privileges, and counting to three (Magic ?). When was the last time someone tried to make you sit on a chair because you made a mistake? Or yelled at you or spanked you? When was the last time someone took away a privilege you valued for making a mistake? Would that make you more cooperative, pleasant, and compliant? I doubt it. Sound disciplinary practices should teach our children to grow into good adults some day. If what you are doing in the name of discipline would not happen to you, it should not happen to your children and it is not discipline. Let me help you solve problems you are having with your children by teaching you how to truly discipline; solving problems by building skill and self control!

No rewards, incentives, or bribes for good behavior
No unpleasant or unnatural punishments
No expensive or ineffective counseling or therapy
No herbs, special diets, or dangerous medications

I help parents solve common problems in children. Solving problems in children is often thought to require professional treatment or therapy, but parents can solve many problems themselves with appropriate parenting, discipline, and guidance. What all of my written home-based programs have in common is that they are intended for use directly by parents to help their children; solving problems, improving behavior, or developing skills without expensive and often inappropriate or damaging "professional help".

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About Me

I am a Licensed Psychologist in private practice, specializing in problems of children and families. I earned my Ph.D. in Psychology at Michigan State University and taught and conducted research in Child Development and Learning Theory for 10 years. I then took leave of absence from teaching for two years to become Postdoctoral Fellow in Pediatric and Family Psychology at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill. I have been in private practice since completing my Fellowship in 1978, helping parents solve behavior problems and other concerns about their children.

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